Relationship Problems

Close relationships are a source of support, development, and support. But for many people, they also become a zone of anxiety, tension, and pain. A person may be in dire need of emotional intimacy, but at the same time experience the fear of rejection, loss of control, or loss of self in a relationship.

Repeated conflicts, feelings of misunderstanding, dependence on the partner’s assessment, or the inability to openly talk about their needs are frequent signals that unconscious scenarios and vulnerable points of the individual are activated in the relationship. A special place here is occupied by codependent relationships — when the entire inner life is subordinated to another person, and their own boundaries, desires and needs recede into the background. Codependency is often accompanied by feelings of guilt, control, and fear of losing touch at any cost..

Working with this topic is one of the areas in which I specialize.

The scope of interpersonal difficulties may include:

• conflicts and tension in couples ‘ relationships
• the inability to build partnerships without fear and tension
• codependent relationships, emotional dependence
• difficulties in interacting with parents, children, and loved ones
• repetition of painful scenarios: ‘everything goes in the same circle again’

Possible manifestations

Physical properties:

• physical tension after socializing (headaches, abdominal pain, exacerbation of chronic symptoms)
• sleep disorders, anxious dreams
• appetite jumps
• rapid heartbeat, panic reactions to rejection or conflict

Emotional ones:

• fear of being rejected, abandoned
• feeling of inner loneliness even in relationships
• resentment, annoyance, and anxiety that can’t be expressed
• the feeling that you need to ‘earn’ love
• heightened sensitivity to criticism or distance

Behavioral issues:

• breaking personal boundaries
• striving to control your partner
• conflict avoidance and sacrifice
• alternating dependent behavior with emotional distancing
• cyclical crises in the same scenarios

How to work with it

In therapy, we:

• we analyze recurring scenarios and hidden conflicts in relationships
• we work with the mechanisms of codependency, control, and anxious attachment
• we form internal boundaries and restore the sense of ‘I’
• develop resilience to frustration and emotional autonomy
• we learn to build a contact in which both intimacy and freedom are possible

If necessary, the work may include elements of pair counseling.

In case of severe psychosomatic or disturbing manifestations, consultation with specialized specialists may be recommended.